Posted by Scot on 07/15/2012 09:43:34
In reply to Windstorm posted by john the younger on 07/15/2012 07:31:17
My sincerest condolences for the loss of your daughter. I can more than
relate to the marked increase in the frequency of the losses occurring
from loved ones that are passing from this life. I know from experience
that the pain from these losses seems unbearable at times.
But regardless of the difficulties of the circumstances that make up all
of our personal tragedies, the sun comes up the next day and the cycle
of life continues on. So I do appreciate the metaphor of "a silver
lining in every rain cloud" that best describes the forbearance put
forth during times of extreme suffering that is required in order to
come to a realization of a place of authentic peace and acceptance.
It's interesting to notice how these losses always seem to be bring out
the layered, complicated dramas into the highest relief among the
interpersonal relationships within families. I've seen the very worst
sides of Personality and the very best sides of Essence coming from
myself and those that are most affected by these experiences of loss.
I've also noticed that even though these challenges present the most
opportune moments to observe and learn about my own 'stuff', I'm often
so besieged by the emotional swings during these times of distress that
the quality of my awareness can be so compromised that I often forget to
engage wakefulness in order to dis-identify with reactions and
responses. There is a stark contrast drawn between those
less-than-wakeful moments and the moments when I awaken to push through
the darkness of fear and experience the sunlight of acceptance.
It was encouraging to read the description of your own self-observations
and the wakefulness that helped you to break the hold of Personality and
witness the Essence in yourself and your daughter's husband. These are
the miraculous moments that are truly gifts!
I'm glad to hear that you're doing well. Thanks for sharing with us today!