Fall 2001 Archive
Kindergarten | Playground | Site Map | Archives
Re: Despairing & Displaced Anger Posted by Deirdre on October 22, 2001 at 17:57:07:
In Reply to: Beginning a study of the engagement between me and Deirdre. posted by John on October 22, 2001 at 11:44:17:
OK John, it was a very humilitating experience you had with the Dali
Lama's troups.. but I have re-read (several times) the post and I
believe you were indeed triggered because I was "challenging" the
benefits of expressed anger.. because I was doing that.. but I was also
despairing because I had not found away out of anger with either pillow
betting or meditation.. I AM angry now, I believe a man with such
insight should be able to see his own displaced anger. The trigger is
appearant and the displaced anger is apparent.. I am really hurt too.
I finally reveil a very sore spot and you "see" what truly isn't there.
Now my temptation was to just not answer, to run away from your anger..
but I didn't. It brought up panic in me -- but I decided to come back
and see if I could face this with you. I am not comfortable with you
using me as a model of anger.. when I am just starting to attempt to
see anger and not recoil from it.
So I am angry, you cannot love me John, because you do not truly know
me. I have great respect for you and I have great admiration for your
attempts here within in this class.. but I do not feel love for you.
Perhaps you are a better person than I and CAN truly love someone you
know very little about.. but with love comes great responsibility and I
think you blew it here with your attack. Your's was a clear attack and
I cannot find a hint of an attack in my own post to you. I am angry!
Continue with Fall 2001 Classroom Talk or
Post a new discussion in the current Classroom Talk